Don’t go into a relationship and expect things. You’ve got to go in and do things. You have to show your love and show your commitment. That’s what will get into someone’s heart and make the relationship.

Eric Marcus – The Male Couple’s Guide (buy on Amazon) (3rd ed. © 1999)

An important resource for gay and lesbian relationships is couple counselling, whether it comes at a time of stress […] or is used as a preventive measure to build stability.

Betty Berzon – “The Intimacy Dance – A Guide to Long-term Success in Gay and Lesbian Relationships” (buy on Amazon)

Most gay […] couples will be able to appraise the level of a therapist’s knowledge about homosexuality and gay/lesbian life-styles in a very short time.

J. C. Gonsiorek – “Guide to Psychotherapy with Gay and Lesbian Clients” (buy on Amazon) – Chapter: Psychotherapy for Gay Male Couples.

If the purpose of therapy is to help gay [couples] form a more secure attachment to one another, they must first form a secure enough attachment to the therapist.

Gil Tunnell – “An Affirmation Approach to Treating Gay Male Couples” (ISSN: 0362-4021).

Counsellor Dean Richardson MNCS(Accredited Registrant)

Why LGBT Couple Counselling?

Would you like to understand why couple counselling can be important to lesbian, gay, bisexual and trans relationships?

Here’s the real story…

Any lesbian, gay, bisexual or trans* couple relationship can suffer strain, conflict, arguments, acting-out or abuse.

But we can suffer in our relationships because of a problem our parents didn’t have: as we grew up observing our heterosexual parents’ relationship, we didn’t gain enough information to manage our same-sex relationships. We’re employing a slightly off-centred relationship template.

Until recently we didn’t have role-models to look up to. Simply employing heterosexual behaviour to gay relationships can result in unnecessary struggles.

We had to develop our own relationship philosophy. One that works for our distinctly LGBT couple relationships.

Gay male couple not speaking

Good News for your Relationship.

I can’t emphasis this enough:-

LGBT couples whose behaviour leads to a break-up… sometimes later leading to reconciliation… only to break-up again later… can be helped by a counsellor who specialises in working therapeutically with LGBT Couples.

But this isn’t just any generic relationship we’re talking about… it’s yours!

Meeting with LGBT Couple Counsellor Dean Richardson MNCS(Accredited Registrant) in Havant or Waterlooville (Hampshire) can help LGBT couples:-

(a) learn to discover and understand what may really be going on underneath relationship behaviours & conflicts.

(b) learn to take creative and considered steps to unravel repeating problems.

(c) learn to consider different ways to respond, snuffing out not just old conflicts, but new ones as they occur in the future.

This is what you were looking for:-

As a lesbian, gay or mixed-orientation couple, we can develop our own ways of becoming curious about our relationship’s behaviour. This curiosity (employed with our partner), can become a powerful relationship tool.

And there’s a bonus:-

The couple therapy approach employed by Dean Richardson continues to help couples long after they’ve ended couple counselling.

Click to learn about how to begin LGBT Couple Counselling…

Gay male couple not speaking

Why choose Specialist Dean Richardson MNCS (Acc/Reg)?

Want to know you why you’d choose me as your couple counsellor.

Are you ready?

Hi – I’m Dean Richardson and I’m an actual gay couples’ counsellor.

You see, although most professional counselling bodies (now!) frown upon counsellors who decline to work with lesbian and gay people, they won’t stop some counsellors who refuse to work with your relationship (e.g. citing religious beliefs).

That’s kinda appalling in this modern day.

Transparently gay!

Some couple therapy services will advertise with sentiments meant to suggest that “biblical traditional marriages” is the standard to achieve. I wonder if “biblical” is a coded message.

The approach that I use with LGBT couples means that rather than tell you “what a normal couple would do is…” I employ powerful (“circular”) questioning that allows the couple to discover their own effective resolutions to conflicts.

Why does this matter?

I understand the specific needs and difficulties of lesbian and gay couples in a heteronormative society. Plus, I’ll focus specifically on your relationship needs. My aim is to become redundant; you won’t need me after we’re done.

This means that you’ll leave couple counselling with ways to manage your relationship both now and in the future.

My therapeutic approach with LGBT Couples means there doesn’t need to be more than one counsellor in the room with you, neither. (Yes, some services employ two counsellors in the room).

Plus, I’m quite down-to-earth and “non-counselley”. I’ll use swearing and everything (meaning – I use the same language that you do)! This helps you become at-ease with the counselling processes.

Separation or Reconciliation.

If you wish to separate; if you wish to reconcile; if you’re not sure… LGBT Couple Counselling with Dean Richardson can help the both of you decide which way to move forward… together.

Click to learn more about LGBT Couple Counselling…

Lesbian couple fallen out

Not just any LGBT Counsellor.

Here’s something you need to know:-

It’s not commonly known that general qualifications in counselling cover only the skills necessary to work with a single person (“individual” counselling). This can leave self-titled “fully qualified” counsellors without adequate understanding or training of the needs of couple relationships. Couple counselling is not the same approach as individual counselling.

What makes Dean a Different Counsellor?

Dean Richardson is not just a qualified counsellor. Dean is also a QUALIFIED COUPLE COUNSELLOR (Dip systemic / psychodynamic Couple Counselling; Chichester).

Dean’s private practice focuses on the therapeutic, psychological & developmental needs of lesbian & gay couple relationships as part of his continued professional development (CPD); LGBT/Q Counselling is one of his specialities.

What to ask the other counsellors.

Even if you choose not to work with Dean, it’s worth asking each couple counsellor you interview: “what qualifies you to work with lesbian/gay couples?”. Listen carefully to the counsellor’s reply. It may help you discover reasons (not?) to choose that counsellor.

Click to learn more about why you’d choose Dean Richardson…

LGBT Couple Counsellor: Dean Richardson

LGBT Couple Counsellor Dean Richardson MNCS(Accredited Registrant)

Finding LGBT Couple Counselling.

LGBT Couple Counselling, Havant, Hampshire

Dean Richardson MNCS(Acc) MBACP(Accred)
Counsellor for LGBT Couples, Individuals and Small Groups,
c/o The Cove Therapy Rooms,
Davies Pharmacy Ltd,
12 West Street

Private LGBT Couple Counselling Services for local gay & lesbian adults, serving locations near and within central Havant, Petersfield to Waterlooville, Cosham to Portsmouth & Southsea, Southampton to Chichester, Fareham to Gosport, Hayling Island, Emsworth, Westbourne, Rowland's Castle, local residents anywhere in between and regularly further afield!

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Dean Richardson MNCS(Accredited Registrant) is a specialist in LGBT Counselling (individuals, couples and small groups), and he is based in central Havant, Hampshire.

His offices are quiet and discreet, with plenty of car parks just around the corner, a short walking distance from Havant Central Bus & Train Stations, and just 5 minutes drive from the main A27 access road.

The location is suitable for wheelchairs & the severely mobility impaired (with wheelchair accessible toilet facilities) on a flat surface with no steps.

Dean Richardson MNCS(Accredited Registrant),
c/o The Cove Therapy Rooms,
Old Stable Yard,
West Street,
PO9 1PF.

Counselling Appointments in Havant.

Generally I’m available on Monday and Thursday evenings (5pm to 9pm) and Wednesday afternoons (noon to 5pm). You may choose the day and time you wish to meet with me weekly from my available appointments (below) – and this time will stay with you until we reach the end of our work together.


Couples & Individuals (Havant, Hampshire)
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Monday Appointments:1pm2pm3pm4pm5pm6pm7pm8pm
Tuesday Appointments:Not available
Wednesday Appointments:1pm2pm3pm4pm5pm6pm7pm8pm
Thursday Appointments:1pm2pm3pm4pm5pm6pm7pm8pm
Friday Appointments:Not available
Weekend Appointments:Not available
Groups (Waterlooville, Hampshire)
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Tuesday Appointments:Waiting list (contact me to discuss)
Couples & Individuals (Havant, Hampshire)
Mon:7pm or 8pm
Tue:Not Available
Fri:Not Available
W/E:Not Available
Groups (Waterlooville, Hampshire)
Tue:Waiting List (contact me)

Waiting lists may be available for unlisted times.

NOTICE: Dean is not available from Monday 16th December to Friday 3rd January (inclusive).

Times in red are the most popular, and usually the first to go.

Counselling sessions are (at a minimum) weekly and on the same day and time each week.

Optionally, you may wish to discuss coming to sessions more than once a week. You may even wish to consider longer sessions (90 minutes can be available by prior arrangement). These are options, not compulsory.

Our counselling work together continues for as long (or as brief) as we both think it’s helpful… and then we’ll look at ending.

Fees are due on the day of the session (cash, cheque [made out to Dean Richardson], credit & debit cards).

Ending counselling: rather than one day saying “I’m ending counselling today” it is helpful to bring up the idea of ending counselling first. Sometimes the need to end may be a mask for something else (avoiding difficult feelings, can’t say something, acting out loss etc) and it can be helpful to distinguish, together, what ending may mean in our work. We’ll talk about endings with some thought and some planning.

Got a Question? Don't Hold Back…

If you have a question about gay & lesbian couple relationship counselling in Havant and Waterlooville, or want to ask about making your first appointment, feel free to drop me a line any time…

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