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LGBT Exclusive: Counselling for Couples

Why might you choose the Independent British Gay Couple Counselling Specialist who offers Relationship Video Therapy over Zoom & Skype established in Chichester (West Sussex), Portsmouth, Havant & Southampton (Hampshire, UK)? 22nd year of Practice, experienced LGBT / QIA+ Counsellor for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Mixed-Sexuality, Queer-Identifying Couples & Polyamorous Groups.Maybe so much more than just another ally…
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Did you know…?
LGBT couples living over 400 miles away from Dean (eg Scotland to South England) have worked successfully via Zoom, as have couples in long-distance relationships (each of us calling from a different country)…

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Click to see another random fact…

Don’t go into a relationship and expect things. You’ve got to go in and do things. You have to show your love and show your commitment. That’s what will get into someone’s heart and make the relationship.

Eric Marcus – “The Male Couple’s Guide” (buy on Amazon) (3rd ed. © 1999)

An important resource for gay and lesbian relationships is couple counselling, whether it comes at a time of stress […] or is used as a preventive measure to build stability.

Betty Berzon – “The Intimacy Dance – A Guide to Long-term Success in Gay and Lesbian Relationships” (buy on Amazon)

Most gay […] couples will be able to appraise the level of a therapist’s knowledge about homosexuality and gay/lesbian life-styles in a very short time.

J. C. Gonsiorek – “Guide to Psychotherapy with Gay and Lesbian Clients” (buy on Amazon) – Chapter: Psychotherapy for Gay Male Couples.

If the purpose of therapy is to help gay [couples] form a more secure attachment to one another, they must first form a secure enough attachment to the therapist.

Gil Tunnell – “An Affirmation Approach to Treating Gay Male Couples” (ISSN: 0362-4021).

The modern gay man is his own best friend, has healed his inner child, has memorised the Kama Sutra, and owns a little black book that would make Casanova jealous. Why, then, do so few of them have the house, dog, Range Rover, and husband that so many yearn for?

Patrick Price – “Husband Hunting Made Easy and Other Miracles for the Modern Gay Man” (buy on Amazon)

Counsellor Dean Richardson for LGBT/QIA+ Couple and Group Relationships
Counsellor Dean Richardson MNCS(Accredited Registrant)
quotationMy mother used to say: “it’s impossible to hate anyone whose story you know.”quotation
~ Jennifer (“Jenny”) Finney Boylan.

Gay Relationships

Would you like to understand how gay couple counselling (and poly/non-monogamous group counselling) becomes important to gay relationships, lesbian, bisexual, queer, trans or agender?

Let me share with you the real story…

You’re not the first gay couple to consider counselling. You don’t need to feel shame in making use of some help from an experienced therapist. You see: any intimate relationship can suffer strain, conflict, arguments, acting-out, sexual-engagement difficulties and/or abuse. But… as LGBT/QIA+ we might be suffering in our particular relationships because of problems our parents were less likely to have had…

…as we grew up observing our parents modelling their relationship, we didn’t gain sufficient information to learn how to manage our distinctly intimate & sexual gay couple and gay group relationships!

Without noticing, we have likely been trying to employ observations from our formative years, using borrowed-approaches that showed themselves repeatedly to be off-kilter to our own distinct needs. We didn’t know why our approach in resolving our conflicts were repeatedly unsuccessful.

In short: we’ve been employing heterosexual approaches, not approaches suitable to our own gay relationships.

Until recently – as LGBT/QIA+ – we didn’t even have many (very-necessary) role-models to look up to. Nor have our schools taught us what to look out for. Simply employing heterosexual behaviour to our gay intimate relationships resulted in unnecessary struggles we’re unprepared to manage our love life.

As LGBT/QIA+ we have had to develop our own relationship philosophies! Intimacy philosophies that work for our Couple Relationships and/or Polyamorous Intimate Groups… and many of us, understandably, struggle to do this.

Some relationships appreciate some help. Dean Richardson MNCS(Accred/Reg) – via the deliberately non-heterosexual counselling service – could well be the inspirational intervention you’ve been seeking… together.

Gay Couple Therapy
Zoom Counselling for LGBT Couples
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Best Counsellor for you?

You may not be surprised that I can’t tell you here if I’ll be the best counsellor for you and your partner’s/s’ needs. I can, though, help you to make an informed decision about the services I offer as part of my private counselling practice for LGBT/QIA+ Couples & Groups. Let’s do this:-

If you have questions please get in contact with me directly to discuss matters.

Best Counsellor for You?

Werking it Together!

So… I can’t emphasise this enough:-

Lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, queer and asexual relationships whose behaviour leads to a break-up – sometimes later leading to a reconciliation – only to break-up again later – can be helped by a counsellor who specialises in working therapeutically with LGBT/QIA+ Couple & Group Relationships.

But this isn’t just any relationship we’re talking about… it’s yours.

Meeting with British Couple/Group Relationship Counsellor Dean Richardson MNCS(Accred/Reg) in Havant, Waterlooville, Portsmouth (Hampshire, UK) or online with Zoom / Skype can help sexuality-and-gender-diverse people…

(a) learn to discover and comprehend what may really be going on underneath their relationship’s behaviours & conflicts,

(b) learn to take creative and considered steps to unravel repeating problems,

(c) learn to consider different ways to respond to their relationship’s demands, snuffing out not just old conflicts but newer ones as they occur in the future.

Counselling for LGBT Relationships

In layman’s terms, this is what you are looking for: a couple or group gets lost and can’t see the wood for the trees. They invite Dean, as their relationship counsellor, to look at their wood along with them. They wish him to help them notice what they’re not seeing (or what they may be turning a blind-eye to). As we begin to look at what hasn’t been seeable before, discussions inspire options for learning and possible changes (pros, cons, leave it as it is). The relationship leaves counselling with their plans already underway to transform their wood.

So, as an intimate couple or group we can develop our own ways of becoming curious about our relationship behaviour, with curiosity (employed along with our partner) becoming a powerful relationship-transforming & maintaining tool.

There’s a bonus: Dean’s therapeutic framework/approach – which the client relationship will transform for their own use – can continue to help couples & groups long after they’ve ended counselling.

Experienced Therapist

So, you’re interested in a gay couples/established-group therapist who is knowledgeable about LGBT/QIA+, mixed-sexuality lifestyles and the specific conflicts experienced. Maybe you’re becoming curious to learn you why you’d choose Counsellor Dean Richardson MNCS(Accred/Reg). Even as an experienced British specialist counsellor of 21 years experience working with LGBT/QIA+  does his approach suit your specific needs?

I might have an answer to this.

Hi – I’m Dean… and I’m an actual Gay Relationship Counsellor! 👋🏻 (gentle applause)

You see, although most professional counselling membership bodies (at least more recently…) frown upon their members who decline to work with lesbian and gay people, they usually let those counsellors continue to decline the invitation to work with your relationship (e.g. citing religious or personal beliefs etc).

Frown? Uhuh! 🤦🏻‍♂️

Even in 2021 – and with the Memorandum of Understanding #2 in place – taking positions like this with professional therapists is kinda 19th century stuff (IMHO)!

Transparently Gay.

You may have seen on Google some couple/group relationship therapy services advertising sentiments such as: “biblical traditional marriages”. I’ve  wonder to myself if “biblical” is code for: “We work with hetrosexual only” 🤷‍♀️

The therapy approach that I – Dean Richardson – use with LGBT/QIA+ couples and groups means I don’t take a judgemental position about “what a normal couple would do here is…”. Instead I employ an effective, therapeutically neutral, systemic approach (science bit: “circular questioning”) that allows the relationship to begin to discover their own effective resolutions to their own relationship conflicts.

Lesbian Couple Therapy

Does a Therapist’s Sexuality Matter?

I understand the specific needs and difficulties of lesbian and gay couples and poly-groups in a heteronormative society. Plus, in therapy, I’ll focus specifically on your relationship needs (rather than try to apply a kind of magical “standard” that all happy couples employ). My aim is to become redundant: you won’t need me after our therapy work is completed. This means that you’ll leave couple counselling with ways to manage your relationship both now and in the future.

My therapeutic approach with LGBT/QIA+ relationships means there doesn’t need to be more than one counsellor in the room with you, neither. (Yes, some services engage your relationship with two counsellor simultaneously).

Plus, I’m quite down-to-earth and “non-counselley”. I’ll use swearing and everything (meaning: I’m happy to use language & colloquialisms that you do)! This helps you become at-ease with the counselling processes.

A Different Counsellor – Zoom/Skype

Here’s something you need to know…

Generally, initial counselling qualifications offered by British training institutes cover only the skills necessary to work with a single person (known as “individual counselling”) and working face-to-face only (ie not using Internet video nor telephone). This can leave self-described “fully qualified” counsellors without adequate understanding of the specific needs of relationships between people (couples, groups) nor how to actually work therapeutically with them.

Couple Counselling and Group Therapy is not the same approach as “individual counselling… but just with a few more people attending” (yikes! 😲)

What makes Dean a Different Counsellor?

Dean Richardson is not just a counsellor; he is also a fully qualified and experienced Relationship Counsellor (PGDip systemic / psychodynamic Couple Counselling: Chichester; National Foundation in Group Therapy: Institute of Group Analysis, London). 

He’s also a fully Independent Counsellor (not associated with organisations that process therapy en masse, nor foreign therapy services who can’t spell “Counsellor” in their advertising 🤣)

Added to this, Dean is an experienced Internet Video Web Counsellor now having 13 years actual experience of working remotely via Zoom, Skype etc.

Spot the differences, yet?! 😉

Dean’s private therapy practice focuses on the therapeutic, psychological & developmental needs of lesbian & gay couple/group relationships as part of his continued professional development (CPD). LGBT/QIA+ Counselling (aka offering gay couple therapy) is one of Dean’s focal specialities.

What to ask Other Counsellors.

Even if you choose not to work with Dean, it’s worth asking every counsellor you evaluate: “what qualifies you to work with our relationship (on webcam)?” and listen carefully to the counsellor’s reply. How you feel about what you’re hearing may help you appreciate if the counsellor being interviewed is suitable for your specific relationship needs.

LGBT Couple Counsellor Dean Richardson

LGBT/QIA+ Couple & Group Counsellor:
Dean Richardson MNCS(Accred/Reg)

British Queer Services – Local & Remote

Zoom Counselling for LGBT CouplesSkype Video Counselling for LGBT Couples

NOTICE: Video Couple & Group Webcam Counselling Services continue unaffected, whilst face-to-face services are suspended.

Queer couples/groups searching for “counselling near me” may not have considered the remote webcam option. After working exclusively in charity for over ten years, Dean originated his own private counselling practice in Chichester, West Sussex 13 years ago, later adding Southsea, Hampshire (near Portsmouth), moving temporarily into Waterlooville and subsequently centering in Havant Town Centre (Hampshire, England) by 2016. Dean set up his original Counselling for Gay Couples – a bespoke therapy service specifically for LGBT/QIA+ couples centred in the Hampshire region – during 2010. This relationship therapy service focused on the distinct needs of gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, non-binary, gender-fluid and many other queer-style relationships.

Those struggling with their intimate / loving couple and small group relationships had somewhere to go for therapeutic assistance.

To support the 2019 British National Emergency, Dean expanded his remote Zoom & Skype Video Counselling for LGBT Couples services, adding additional appointments. Webcam counselling respects your discretion and privacy when calling from the safety of your home or office; it proved to be popular for LGBT couples staying at home and looking for a safe, reliable, British video relationship counselling service created especially for our kinds of relationship (see my FAQ on Are Social Media & Search Engines Misleading Britons about a seeking a “Licensed Counselor”?).

Recently, LGBT Couple Counselling was available within the therapy rooms near the main Havant, Hampshire shopping centre but, due to Lockdown, no longer. Dean’s service for LGBT/QIA+ Couples and Established Groups continues to be centred around Portsmouth, Hampshire (UK) and, since 2020, is available exclusively via Internet telecommunications using free apps such as Zoom, Skype and others.

Video LGBT Couple Counselling

Sessions for Groups & Couples offers relationship counselling for both established poly/non-monogamous groups and couples.

Counselling sessions are (at a minimum) weekly and arranged for the same day and time (from your choice of available weekly appointments).

Optionally, you may wish to discuss coming to sessions more than once a week. There is also the option consider longer sessions (90 minutes are available by prior arrangement). Discussing these with Dean may help you make an informed decision that’s right for you.

Our counselling work together continues for as long (or as brief) as we think it’s helpful… one aim is to make the counsellor (me!) redundant & unnecessary to the relationship going forward.

Fees are due on the day of the session (credit & debit cards payable via PayPal, Bank App payments, BACS transfers).

Ending counselling: rather than one day saying “we’re ending counselling today” it can be helpful to bring up the idea of ending counselling first. Sometimes the need to end may be a mask for something else (avoiding a difficult conversation, fear about what a topic might bring up, difficult feelings, loss etc) and it can be helpful to distinguish, together, what ending may mean in our work and for your relationship. We’ll talk about these matters with some thoughtfulness and planning.

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Skype / Zoom Video Counselling

Private Counselling over Zoom and Skype - June 2021: During our national emergency, my contribution was to offer 13 years experience of Zoom & Skype Remote Counselling, suspending face-to-face sessions, and making more appointments available. As we move out of Lockdown I'll continue offering national video counselling, helping us to transition back (Video/Webcam Counselling Details).

Generally I’m available on Monday and Thursday afternoon to evening (noon to 9pm), Wednesday late afternoon (5pm to 8pm) and Friday evenings (usually reserved for groups). You may choose the day and time you wish to meet with me weekly from my available appointments (below). This appointment will stay with you until we reach the end of our work together.


Couple & Individual Video Counselling (Zoom,Skype…)
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Polyamorous Group Video Counselling (Zoom,Skype…)
Friday Appointments:12pm1pm2pm3pm4pm5pm6pm7pm8pm
Couple & Individual Video Counselling (Zoom,Skype…)
Mon:3pm or 4pm
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Polyamorous Group Video Counselling (Zoom,Skype…)
Fri:1pm, 2pm, 6pm or 7pm
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Private Relationship Counselling exclusively for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Mixed & Queer Couples and Established Polyamorous Groups - serving locations in and around central Havant, Petersfield to Waterlooville, Cosham to Portsmouth & Southsea, Southampton to Chichester, Fareham to Gosport, Hayling Island, Emsworth, Westbourne, Rowland's Castle, local residents anywhere in between and regularly further afield!

Got a Question? Don't Hold Back…

If you have a question about gay & lesbian couple / group relationship counselling in Havant, Waterlooville, Portsmouth and Online Video, or want to ask about making a first appointment together, feel free to drop me a line any time…

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