Ready for Counselling?

You’re in a same-sex (or mixed, or queer…) couple relationship or polyamorous/non-monogamous group, thinking about meeting with LGBT/QIA+ Relationship Counsellor Dean Richardson MNCS(Accred/Reg) for Bespoke Counselling… but how do you begin?

Your First Easy Decision…

Let’s get started by asking three simple questions. This will assist you in determining whether or not Dean’s counselling approach is the best option for you and your partner(s).

  1. Does Dean’s Approach to Relationship Counselling for LGBT/QIA+ seem right for you?Tip: don’t worry if you feel like you’re not quite getting the details of Dean’s therapy methods. Instead, when you read this website, you should focus on a sense of “Yes, Dean seems good for us.”
  2. Are you available to attend weekly appointments together (same time/day and same location/medium) – choosing from one of the available times?Tip: refer to the Appointments Table below to see which days and times are available, or which are on a waiting list.
  3. Are you able to afford Dean Richardson’s Counselling Session Fees?Tip: private counselling attracts a fee payable prior to the session. Couples may choose either 50 or 90 minute sessions. Group sessions are 90 minutes only.
LGBT Couple Counsellor: Dean Richardson on Zoom & Skype

Having read the three questions above: what’s your answer….?


If you reply “No” to any question, then perhaps Dean is not be the right counsellor for you. It might be helpful to consider an alternative couple counsellor listed on a reputable directory such as: Counselling Directory (UK).


If you reply “Yes” then continue reading to learn how straightforward it is to begin your first session of LGBTQ+ Relationship Counselling for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Trans, Queer…

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Five Easy Steps

STEP ONE: Decide – together – that you want to engage Dean as your couple counsellor.

STEP TWO: Budget for around 6 sessions (as by this number of sessions you will be in a better position to have embraced the direction your counselling needs to go in, potentially beginning to make the counsellor redundant).

STEP THREE: Decide upon which day/time you’d prefer to meet weekly (maybe prepare to have couple of alternatives in case your first choice isn’t available).

STEP FOUR: Get in contact (using the easy contact form).

STEP FIVE: Dean will reserve the first of your preferred appointments, confirm this with you both, and ask you to send your £30 deposit* (payable online, using this page) to secure the first session.

Five Steps to begin LGBT Counselling

After you have made Contact…

You will receive an acknowledgement after your contact form has been received. This will include a confirmation of the requested counselling service, as well as an overview on scheduling our first session.

You will be asked to send your £30 deposit.

You’ll receive a final confirmation email after your deposit is received. The email will include information about our virtual meeting room (or an alternative if we’ve agreed) and other details that prepare you.

You will send the remainder of your session fee (the fee minus the deposit you’ve already sent in) prior to the day of our first session.

After that, we’ll meet as scheduled and begin our first set of conversations.

FYI: It usually takes about a week to arrange a first session (email exchanges, arranging to pay & receive the deposit, making arrangements with service providers etc).

*NOTE: the deposit is your way of confirming attendance for our first session. A deposit is not be required for subsequent sessions; you will just pay the full fee each time.

First Session: What Happens?

Note – because of the current situation, all counselling sessions are via Video (Zoom / Skype etc). You’ll be asked for your preferences when you use the contact page.

During our first counselling session, we’ll discuss how this relationship works (or doesn’t seem to work), what’s gone wrong, what’s been tried (and what each of us has observed/learned if anything), and what our initial impressions are about how counselling can assist.

We’ll have conversations about the relationship’s “system” (basically learning about behaviour: who does what and what is the response). We’ll chat about how we might collaborate (“might” because those in the relationship are heavily involved in the process itself and may not yet know their part in the difficulties yet). We’ll start by figuring out what we think our therapeutic collaboration will reveal.

We’ll make a note of what we’ve learned by the end of our first session. We’ll see if we can decide whether or not to continue with sessions. If we can’t decide, we’ll consider adding another session (etc) until we see our work taking shape, or it becomes evident that we’re not able to work together successfully.

If we continue counselling sessions, we’ll uncover (in deeper, useful detail) what are the faults in the relationship’s system. We’ll uncover new knowledge that will lead to new possibilities and ways of behaving in this relationship.

Weekly counselling sessions will follow until the couple or group becomes aware that they’re capable of dealing with their relationship problems alone. I often say: my intention is to become redundant to the relationship’s needs. We’ll then devise a strategy for wrapping up our meetings.

The couple or group who have contracted the counsellor may make an informed decision to bring counselling to a close at anytime they wish. Individual partners may choose to leave early:

  • Couples: if your partner leaves early then Dean will work with the remaining partner (eg up to 6 sessions) to bring the counselling to a close. This is because the contracting relationship has left and the individual remaining has the option to continue individual counselling with another counsellor (if they so wish).
  • Groups: provided there is a recognisable “group” left then therapy may continue (we’ll discuss options at the time). If no recognisable group remains we’ll work for up to 6 sessions to bring the counselling to a close. This is because the contracting group has left and those remaining have the choice to enter counselling with another counsellor (if they so wish).
How to Begin Counselling


Couple & Individual Video Counselling (Zoom,Skype…)
Mon:1pm, 2pm or 6pm
Tue:Not Available
Wed:1pm or 3pm
Thu:1pm or 3pm
Fri:Not Available
W/E:Not Available
Polyamorous Group Video Counselling (Zoom,Skype…)
Fri:1pm, 2pm, 6pm or 7pm
NOTICE: Dean is not available from Friday 2nd July to Sunday 25th July (inclusive), though he may still be available to respond to enquiries and emails.

Waiting lists are available for unavailable times.

Couple Counselling Couch

Unlimited or Set Number of Counselling Sessions


NHS facilities and some mental health charities offer you a limited or set number of sessions. The limit may be around 6 or 12 sessions. Sometimes this may mean you will end counselling before your full requirements are addressed.

Dean effective therapy approach comes from his private practice. He asks you to commit to a regular, weekly attendance. The number of sessions available to you has no artificial limit. You can attend for as long, or short, as therapy is helping.

When our counselling work is established, you may like to discuss setting number of sessions. This can help with budgeting, availability, new matters coming into the counselling, or other matters. We will discuss possibilities before changes were put in place so that everyone is happy.

Primarily, as your distinct relationship, the therapeutic needs of the couple are of great concern. Financial matters are important, and we can amply deal with those.

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What Clients Say (Feedback)

Over 21 years worth of cases (over 2,000 people) ~ many clients have spoken about their experience with Dean as their therapist. Offering an effective approach to counselling with LGBT /QIA+ isn’t straightforward but it is rewarding; here are some highlights…

I discovered that we were in a open relationship… I hadn’t known!

We came into counselling to talk about what our relationship needed, and what we couldn’t give to each other.

We though we wanted to separate (and we didn’t want to). We learned what we really wanted was to learn how to do some things separately, and we stayed together.

We were ready to have children, but both of our upbringing was a bad experience. We wanted to make sure we’d tidied up our history before we welcomed in our first kid.

I needed to talk with my partner about Lesbian Bed Death. I’d been with an individual counsellor she kind-of put me off.

Dean had no problems talking with me about sexuality, sex and intimacy, and what was happening (or wasn’t happening!) in my relationship.

When my husband came out as gay, we wanted to stay together but didn’t know how (wife).

We met in a a pub and started going out. It was a year before we realised this wasn’t enough to keep us together – we didn’t really know each other.

We had fallen out of love. We wanted to get back the relationship we used to have.

As couple counselling progressed we gave up the idea of recapturing the past (that was lost). Instead we created a newer relationship together.

Our local GU clinic recommended we seek counselling because of one sus being unfaithful.

We argued over sex. During our counselling we both discovered that arguments were covering up fear. Once we addressed our fears the arguments went away.

About Dean Richardson MNCS(Accred/Reg)

You could choose any counsellor…

Given that this will be the most intimate and vulnerable you could be with your partner(s), you would want a talented professional whose expertise you can trust. Your couple or group relationship will be in good hands with Dean. He works from Great Britain, is Independent of "box 'em/shift 'e" organisations. He identifies as a gay couple counsellor. He is easily payable in pounds sterling! Dean already had an impressive 14 years actual video webcam experience way before the first British emergency began (did you notice other counsellors suddenly adding a video option to their portfolio?! 🤔).

What makes Dean a Distinct Counsellor

  • Dean is sensitive and effective to your sexuality / gender-identity and intimate ways of relating to each other.
  • You'll discover quickly that Dean is an informed member of your own community.
  • Dean demonstrates adept skills with lesbian, gay, bisexual, asexual, mixed sexuality and same-or-mixed gender relationships. He avoids the role of an "all-knowing expert";  experts don't learn & respond, they instruct!
  • Dean speaks plain English (and can swear like a virtuoso if you like, or not at all if you prefer). He works cooperatively with your relationship (no unnecessary silence, or just "hmms...").
  • Dean is proud to be an accredited member of The National Counselling Society. Accreditation is a valued recognition, originally awarded 12 years ago from another professional body. Accreditation usefully validates a counsellor's substantial experience and attention to ethical practice. Dean is a member of the Psychotherapy and Counselling Union of Great Britain.
If all that hits the mark… then you'd probably like to meet with the Online Gay Relationship Counsellor Dean Richardson MNCS(Accred/Reg) for LGBT/QIA+ yourself.

Specialist in LGBT/QIA+ Relationships

Dean focuses on LGBT/QIA+ relationships as a specialty in therapy. He works with individuals, couples and small groups. Plus, he's qualified to a postgraduate level (Chichester PG Diploma in Psychodynamic/Systemic Couple Counselling, IGA National Foundation in Group Counselling) as a private practice counsellor*.

(*Note: not all counsellors, particularly those who are commonly qualified in Individual Counselling, have such specific qualifications for working with couples or groups. Nor do they have therapeutic relationship experience. Such counsellors may try, perhaps out of misplaced goodwill, to employ "individual" techniques but will find they are ineffective. This is simply because your relationship is not part of their primary theoretical framework nor rationale. A couple is not "individual-counselling-multiplied-by-two!" Remember to always ask your potential counsellor: "what qualifies you to work with our relationship?" and trust your instincts based on the responses you hear).

Accredited Registrant of the National Counselling Society
Member of the British Psychotherapy and Counselling Union
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Private Relationship Counselling exclusively for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Mixed & Queer Couples and Established Polyamorous Groups - serving locations in and around central Havant, Petersfield to Waterlooville, Cosham to Portsmouth & Southsea, Southampton to Chichester, Fareham to Gosport, Hayling Island, Emsworth, Westbourne, Rowland's Castle, stretching westwards to Bournemouth and eastwards towards Brighton & Hove. For local residents anywhere in between and regularly further afield!

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Don't Hold Back… if you have a question about counselling for gay / lesbian / bisexual couples & groups, or want to ask about making a first counselling appointment, you're welcome to get in contact to discuss your needs.