Same-Sex Relationship Therapy is a therapy service distinctly for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual partners. It’s gender agnostic, centred in Hampshire, yet reaching gay relationships Nationwide using the technology you already have in your pocket.

LGBT Relationship therapy considered the choice for same sex & mixed-sexuality couples / groups seeking gay therapy to transform their most precious relationship.

LGBT /QIA+ couples and polyamorous groups work with Dean Richardson MNCS(Accred/Reg) because of his impressive experience, now practising in his 23rd year.  As a therapy service, his knowledge and understanding of their most intimate relationship is reassuring.

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Historically, Dean’s office / face-to-face practices have been centred in the South of England (Hampshire, Sussex, Dorset). Yet using video technology, Dean now reaches gay & lesbian couples Nationwide across the UK. Regularly working with couples from Scotland, Wales, Ireland, and counties in England such as Yorkshire, Greater Manchester & Sussex.

Dean’s useful LGBT+ Relationship therapy service continues to be available to the UK Nationwide using real-time video conferencing after our nationwide Lockdown ended. A handy solution as it uses your existing Smartphone/Computer devices and freely-available software such as: Zoom/Skype/Google Meet etc.

You’ve looked for the best therapy service for your specific relationship. You arrived  here – congratulations 🎉 – this is the therapy service you were seeking!

Specialist Gay Therapist

Dean Richardson MNCS(Accred/Reg) is a specialist counsellor, focussing on the needs of LGBT/QIA+ couple & group relationships.

If you are in a same sex couple, mixed or queer relationship / commitment / marriage, Dean’s therapeutic approach to relationships specifically addresses concerns for gay, lesbian & bisexual partners (unlike the more generic of counsellors).

Unlocking Therapy

Applying methods from over 50 years, couple counselling invites couples to unlock circular behaviour patterns & embrace newer ways to communicate. New comprehension invites falling back in love.

Discover your partner through newer eyes and ears; in ways that you didn’t know you could.

…and we’ll go at your pace, together

Suitable for…

Suitable for a gay men, lesbian woman, bisexual, same-sex and queer adult couples and established groups: intimate, marital, business or social.

Plus  mixed sexuality / mixed-gender intimate relationships.

Together we will discover the root of a relationship’s problems, and then learn how to address the conflicts, aiming to make the counsellor redundant.


Unrestricted Time

Your intimate relationship has no set time period, so neither does this private LGBT/QIA+ Therapy Service for Couple & Group Relationships.

You’ll not be restricted to 6-or-12 sessions (like GPs, NHS or Charities). You’ll not be introduced to months of unending therapy.

Sessions are weekly & scheduled right from the start so there’ll be no diary conflicts.

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A Brief Overview of LGBT Relationship Counselling

A brief overview of the counselling processes involved would include:-

(a) Helping a couple/group to decide what the focus of the counselling is to be.

This might be supporting the couple or group in comprehending recurring patterns of behaviour. It could be about aiding a couple/group intending to start (or end) a relationship. The focus could be anything… and anything is welcome.

(b) Facilitating a couple/group in working with the focus

Once we’ve decided on the focus we’ll start learning more about how the relationship manages that focus. We will find out what works and what doesn’t work. The clients normally starts each session by bringing the most pressing issue that has developed since the last one. Sometimes the topic will follow on from last time, and other times it will be a new topic (or even a random one).

(c) Supporting a couple/group with any changes in focus.

If part (b) is about discovering new information, new information may lead to a change in what the couple want to achieve with each other.

(d) Bringing Counselling to a Close

When the focus of the counselling work is worked through sufficiently for the couple/group to continue without needing the counsellor any longer, the couple/group and counsellor can arrange to say goodbye. The couple/group continue their work alone, using helpful approaches that they have discovered, developed and built themselves during counselling. 

Gay Therapy Services

TL;DR? Consider which gay therapy service most suits your relationship needs. Then make contact and we’ll discuss matters for therapy before arranging to meet for our first therapy session. The first session will be about an overview of what matters we’re to work on in therapy – sort of “setting the goals” if you like.


Make Your Choice from these gay therapy services

About Counselling for LGBTQ+ Couples.

Where a couple can work on their couple relationship together.

About Counselling for LGBTQ+ Groups.

Where a non-monogamous or polyamorous group get to work on their group dynamics together.

About LGTBQ+ Sexual Engagement Counselling.

Where an LGBTQ+ identifying individual, couple or group get to work on sexual matters.

Alternatively, continue reading below for information on:-

Remedies that Transform how you Communicate

A common complaint brought into counselling by many gay and lesbian partners is: “we don’t know how to communicate any more”.

I’ll say to you: people don’t talk for very good reasons.

It’s also not entirely accurate to say that partners don’t “know” how to communicate; the couple has been communicating very well even during conflicts (arguments, dissatisfaction, frustration, rage etc). But maybe, when the honeymoon is over (or the honeymoon didn’t have a chance to begin) and more serious matters come into their lives, the partners discover that the way they learned to communicate in the beginning has left them unprepared to deal with the more serious aspects of relationship communication later on.

Over the past 22 years I’ve heard thousands of stories about misunderstandings and inability to communicate successfully.

Such stories brought to me as a counsellor have included:-

Improve Communication with a Relationship Therapy Service

“We met online and didn’t live together for some months. We might have skipped the honeymoon (aka “foundation building”) stage.”

“We don’t talk any more – we just throw looks at each other and don’t try going any further.”

“I thought in relationships we get to know everything the other thinking or feeling. So why do I keep getting it wrong?”

“I think it’s because he {reasons of suspicion or hatred} so I don’t try to speak any more”

By employing therapeutic frameworks that have been around for over 50 years (aka The Milan Associates “Systemic/Family Therapy” and Psychodynamic Therapy) the couple learns newer checks-and-balances, learning how to communicate in more effective ways than before. Plus, as the counsellor, Dean employs these methods using plain English (so you won’t need a psychology degree to benefit).

The couple begins learning newer information about each other and their relationship; information they’ve been turning a blind-eye to for years.

And with new information comes new opportunities for behavioural change…

Subject matters that Therapy can address

As a gay, lesbian, bi or mixed-sexuality couple or group, any of these situations may seem familiar to either of you. It can help knowing that your relationship difficulties – whilst private – may not be as distressing or shameful as you think, especially when the problems are known only to the two of you.

When entering a therapy service you may be worried. However, by learning to recognise your relationship conflicts – and learning that Dean Richardson (as an LGBTQ+ therapist) is also aware of these conflicts – you and your partner can make a relieving decision to try therapy that help you both.


  • A sense that the reasons for staying in the relationship have become lost (to one or more of you).
  • Repeating patterns of unhappy behaviour that neither of you can shift… or shift for very long.
  • Attempts to reconcile after a breakup keep failing (old problems keep bring brought up).
  • You don’t talk with each other very well (or any longer)… and when you do it seems to lead to arguments.
  • Open Relationships: you find yourself in an open-relationship, without planning such an event or being aware it was happening.
  • Your partner wants a child: but you do not. Compromise is of no help; the issue won’t go away.
  • “Guest Star”: you both wish to bring in a third for sex into your monogamous partnership, but don’t know how best to go about this.
  • Gender transition: one or both of you undergoes gender transitioning, which you didn’t expect would affect the relationship.
  • You seem to relate like brothers/sisters now, instead of like the lovers you used to be, and you don’t like this.
  • Intimacy problems: whether sexual intimacy, physical intimacy or emotional intimacy; the magic has become tragic.
  • Violence or abuse in the relationship (ranging from perhaps feeling bullied physically or emotionally, to full domestic violence and abuse).
  • One or both of you have acted outside the relationship’s understanding (an affair, social-flirting, being let down etc).
  • Step-family problems: becoming a parent to someone else’s child (adoption, partner’s offspring, etc).
  • Family problems: your or your partner’s family putting strain on your relationship.
  • Family planning: considering having or adopting children. surrogacy etc.
  • Death and/or loss: when major life changes effect how the two of you relate to each other.

Does Dean offer the Gay Therapy Choice for Your Relationship?

As an impressively experienced therapist, for some they picked Dean’s service because of his 22 years of expertise. For others, it was his 14 years of working as a video counsellor (long before others made a run towards the service during 2019 onwards…🤷🏻‍♂️).

For some it was his accredited registration with the National Counselling Society that demonstrated his expertise. Others still, the fact that he was a British counsellor rather than the overseas counseling (sic!) service some had fallen upon.

For a number of younger gay male couples, it was Dean’s age (“we wanted a gay therapist who was older”). For some lesbian couples it was Dean’s gender & sexual identification (“we experienced you as non-threatening”).

For those referred to him, it was his application of the 50+ years of integrated psychodynamic & systemic/”family systems” therapeutic frameworks. Therapy service techniques that helps couples to communicate successfully again, breaking old “stuck” patterns of behaviour.

However you regard Dean’s experience, approach, age, regional accent (Yorkshire!) or variable hair colour (currently “ash with highlights” 😁👱🏻‍♂️) you’ll be making the right decision for you and your distinct partnership’s needs. 

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Private Relationship Counselling exclusively for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Mixed & Queer Couples and Established Polyamorous Groups - serving the UK Nationwide over Zoom & Skype, plus locations in and around central Havant, Petersfield to Waterlooville, Cosham to Portsmouth & Southsea, Southampton to Chichester, Fareham to Gosport, Hayling Island, Emsworth, Westbourne, Rowland's Castle, stretching westwards to Bournemouth and eastwards towards Brighton & Hove. For local residents anywhere in between and regularly further afield!

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