Your relationship is in crisis - do you consider counselling or coaching, and what is the difference between both kinds of therapy services for LGBTQ+?

Counselling vs Coaching for LGBT Relationships

19 Oct, 2022Blog

Counselling vs Coaching for Relationships

The therapy services being offered by LGBT Couple Counselling are centred around relationship counselling rather than coaching.

Relationship counselling and relationship coaching, depending on the model, may have many aspects in common, and you may benefit from such commonalities.

Of course, you may not be aware (yet) of any distinctions between coaching and counselling (or even whether such distinctions exist).

In this blog post, I’ll briefly describe some important differences between counselling and coaching. You might notice how relationship counsellors include a superset of skills and approaches that coaches provide. This information may help you decide if you would like to work with a relationship counsellor or a relationship coach for your relationship difficulties.

Relationship Counselling

Counsellors help manage unhappy situations in all areas of life and are focused on assisting you with  managing (rather than changing) what is. Relationship counsellors facilitate couples, helping them to discover changes they might make to their relationship instead of just living with how things are now.

  • Counselling uses psychology understanding (e.g. human development, human relationship systems) to assist with your understanding of (a) how your relationship got here and (b) facilitating your path towards a more healthy relationship using such understanding.
  • Counselling can look to the past to help with understanding of “how we got here,” inspiring choices to make changes and plans for the future.
  • Counselling avoids setting goals on behalf of the couple. It’s more about facilitating the couple into them making their own decisions about what to change, and supporting their own learning as things progress.
  • Counselling is good at helping you come to terms with what is.

Relationship Coaching

Coaches are available for all areas of life: from career coaching to religious or spiritual coaching. They all aim to help you achieve the direction you want to go in. Usually, this involves discussing, setting, measuring, and achieving goals. In a way, coaching becomes a way to thrive instead of survive.

  • A coach is focused on your potential to move forward from the present position.
  • Coaching rarely looks at the past, preferring to stay in the present and plan for the future.
  • Coaching is about change and action.
  • Coaching is good at help you change what is, and moving forward to what things could be.

In Summary

Relationship counselling assists the couple in understanding how their problems came about.

Counselling and coaching both help the couple move on and make changes that will make their relationship better, help it to grow again.


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