Ten Ways Throuples Ensure a Happy Relationship

Ten Behaviours for Throuple-Happy Relationships

Let’s take a look at ten key behaviours that partners in a throuple relationship engage in to achieve contentment and happiness.

1. Open Communication. Communication is vital! Create a safe and open environment in which all members can express their feelings, desires, and concerns without fear of being judged. To avoid misunderstandings, think about what your needs, expectations, and boundaries are and communicate these with your partners.
2. Trust, Honesty and Respect. Encourage trust among all members by being open and honest with one another. Avoid keeping secrets or withholding important information, as these can lead to trust issues in the relationship. Respect and consideration should be shown to all members of the throuple. Each person’s thoughts, feelings, and needs are to be respected and acknowledged.
3. Guidelines and Boundaries. Just as with any other new relationship, guidelines (or “rules”) and boundaries are discovered by communication and conflicts. Usually, you do something, and one of your partners becomes upset; there’s the opportunity to create a rule (“don’t do the thing”). But you can also set up guidelines and boundaries early on by a simple discussion: “I don’t like this kind of thing.” “When this happens, I feel distressed.” etc. Understand that this is not a rulebook that everyone gets a copy of (unless you actually produce a rulebook together, and why not?). There’s potential for someone to misunderstand a guideline or forget about a boundary. But allowing for flexibility, understanding, compassion and feedback, your distinct relationship’s rules can become second nature.
4. Individual Space. While participating in a throuple, it is essential to safeguard individual space and activities. Encourage each other to pursue personal interests and friendships outside of the relationship.
5. Managing Jealousy. In any relationship, including throuples, jealousy can arise. Together you can tackle jealousy openly and without blame provided that you can find the courage to bring your feelings to your partners. Focus on collaborative problem-solving rather than blaming one another.
6. Conflict Resolution. Learn healthy conflict resolution techniques. Avoid personal attacks and instead concentrate on the issue at hand. Be open to compromise and finding solutions that benefit all members.
7. Shared Values and Goals. Recognise that all members of the throuple share common values and long-term relationship goals. Discuss your future expectations and collaborate to align your goals.
8. Quality time Together. Spend quality time as a throuple doing things that will strengthen your bond and connection. This could include things like shared hobbies, date nights, or simply spending quality time talking and connecting emotionally.
9. Regular Check-ins. Schedule regular check-ins to assess the relationship’s health and individual well-being. These discussions allow for the proactive resolution of any concerns and the assurance that everyone feels heard and supported. You could even keep a relationship book in the kitchen where each of you writes an item to be discussed at the next check-in.
10. Seeking Support when Needed. If difficulties appear to be too difficult to overcome on your own, consider seeking the assistance of a relationship counsellor or therapist who has experience working with non-traditional relationships. A professional can offer advice and tools to help you navigate any issues that may arise.