As an LGBTQ+ couple, throuple or polycule, you may have some concerns about how strong your relationship is and what your partner(s) think about your partnership.
Would it help if you and your partner(s) could ask some insightful questions that could alleviate your worries and that may also highlight what needs to be addressed (sooner rather than later)? I’m thinking it might be.
As a qualified, experienced relationship counsellor with 26 years practical experience, let me assure you that embarking on a journey of discovery within your partnership can actually be as exhilarating as it can be enlightening. Do not be afraid!
Allow me to offer you this thoughtful scenario:
…you and your loved one have a heartfelt conversation in a peaceful place, under a star-lit sky. You both explore the intricate nature of your emotions, dreams, and aspirations that have bound you together since you first met. By asking each other thoughtfully evaluating questions, you’re not just unraveling the enigmatic layers of your partnership, but you’re also creating a space where unspoken desires might find a voice. In finding expression, listened to with genuine curiosity, flourishes in your connection can bloom, and difficulties can be embraced.
The following ten questions may serve as a compass, expertly guiding you through a maze of your relationship behaviour, emotions and responses that you find helpful.
The questions assist you in discovering the strengths that make up your bond and illuminate the corners that may require a little more light.
This is an introspective journey about creating a mutually beneficial roadmap for your future together; it’s not just understanding where you are now. This trip can help you grow, rediscover yourself, and make your love stronger and even more resilient.
Your relationship journey is waiting for you.
Are you ready?
Ten Enlightening Questions to Discuss with your Partner(s)
- Communication. – Ask each other: “Are we able to communicate openly with each other about our feelings, needs, and concerns, or do we often feel misunderstood or ignored when we try to communicate?”
- Conflict Resolution. – Ask each other: “How do we handle disagreements and conflicts? Do we find ourselves stuck in repetitive patterns of arguing without finding a resolution together?”
- Emotional Connection. – Ask each other: “Do we feel emotionally connected and supported by one another? Are we able to share our vulnerabilities without fear of receiving judgment?”
- Intimacy. – Ask each other: “How satisfied are we with our physical and emotional intimacy? Are there any barriers or challenges that we’re facing in this area?”
- Shared Goals. – Ask each other: “Are our individual life goals and aspirations aligned, or do we find ourselves growing apart in terms of how we view our future(s)?”
- Trust and Honesty. – Ask each other: “Do we trust each other a little, a lot, or fully? Are we honest about our actions, thoughts, and feelings? Are there any breaches of trust that we can address together?”
- Respect and Equality. – Ask each other: “Do we treat each other with respect and equality? Do we value each other’s opinions and decisions? Do power imbalances exist between us?”
- Life Stressors. – Ask each other: “How well do we handle external stressors such as work, family, finances, life changes, and other challenges? Do these stressors strain our relationship a little, a lot, or to breaking point?”
- Emotional Well-being. – Ask each other: “Are both of us generally happy and fulfilled within this relationship, or do we feel regularly drained, unhappy, and/or emotionally unfulfilled together?”
- Efforts and Commitment. – Ask each other: “Are we both willing to invest time, effort, and commitment into improving the parts of our relationship that need attention? Are we open to seeking professional help that can help facilitate us in areas that we struggle with?”
Helpful Things to Remember
- These questions are not intended to encourage argumentative conversation!
- These questions are meant to encourage curiosity and interest between you.
- Through curiosity one can have an open conversation with one’s partner to learn new things.
Hope this helps xx
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