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Mental Health Awareness Week

Survey on Counselling. As part of #MentalHealthAwarenessWeek a survey (c 2021) from the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy & YouGov (February 2021*) has been published showing:- 👍🏻 85% Agree …that it is a good idea to seek...

Counselling Plans for Coming out of Lockdown in July (was June) 2021

UPDATE (14th June, 2021) - the government has announced a 4-week extension to lockdown easing in England; Monday 19th July will be the next target date. After the Government announced plans on how we move / hope to move out of lockdown by June 2021, my plans for my...

Do LGBT/QIA+ prefer a Gay Couple Counsellor?

Does a gay or lesbian couple choose a gay/lesbian couple counsellor – or is it enough for the counsellor simply to have awareness of the couple’s sexual and/or gender identification…?

The Important Question I ask of Gay Couples in Counselling

Inviting a gay couple to think about their relationship, I ask a particular form of question. It’s not meant to be an easy question to answer. It is, however, a deliberately-considered question that (a) intends to give the couple an example of what it can be like to work in counselling with me, and (b) intended to provoke thoughtful conversation between the couple…

Do LGBT/QIA+ prefer a Gay Couple Counsellor?

Do LGBT/QIA+ prefer a Gay Couple Counsellor?

Does a gay or lesbian couple choose a gay/lesbian couple counsellor – or is it enough for the counsellor simply to have awareness of the couple’s sexual and/or gender identification…?

The Important Question I ask of Gay Couples in Counselling

The Important Question I ask of Gay Couples in Counselling

Inviting a gay couple to think about their relationship, I ask a particular form of question. It’s not meant to be an easy question to answer. It is, however, a deliberately-considered question that (a) intends to give the couple an example of what it can be like to work in counselling with me, and (b) intended to provoke thoughtful conversation between the couple…

The 6 Developmental Stages of Gay Male Couple Relationships

The 6 Developmental Stages of Gay Male Couple Relationships

Over a 5-year period (1974 to 1979), David P. McWhirter, MD and Andrew M. Mattison MSW, PhD interviewed 156 gay male couples (in the California, San Diego County area) in depth about their significant/intimate couple relationship. The couples were not in therapy and had lived together anywhere from 1 to more than 37 years. The mean time in a relationship was 8.7 years, with median being slightly over 5 years. This is a summary of the developmental stages discovered in gay male relationships.

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